Why Most People Are Unhappy

why most people are unhappy

The major source or cause of unhappiness is finding yourself in a situation where you absolutely don’t know what to do. It’s being confused. Unhappiness is a state of confusion.

If you know what to do in every circumstance you find yourself, you’ll never be unhappy.

Picture yourself the last time, you got lost while trying to find your way to a place you haven’t been to before. Or maybe while trying to go out from your home, you’re all set and ready to leave but you can’t find your keys. You’ve turned everything in your house upside down and you still can’t find them. Maybe it’s your wallet you can’t find.

How do you feel? Happy? Not at all. You feel very unhappy, you feel frustrated. Not until you find what you’re looking for, and you feel better.

You see? Unhappiness is confusion. It’s when you don’t know what to do in a particular situation. When you don’t know what direction to follow, when you don’t know the solution to a problem. When you’re very confused, you become very unhappy.

Happiness is derived from clarity. When you know exactly what you need to do in a particular situation, you’re okay. You’re happy.

So, if you’re broke, but you know what to do to get money, you won’t be unhappy. You’d be fine. If you’re single, but you know how to mingle, you’re okay. It doesn’t worry you one bit. You’re only unhappy when you’re single, and you literally have no idea about mingling with other people and hooking up with someone you like.

If you’re in a exam hall with the question paper looking at the questions and you know the solution to every one of them. You’re calm and relaxed because you know all the answers.

On the other hand, if you know only 5 out of the 50 questions you’re supposed to answer, the exam hall feels like hell.

Happiness is knowing what to do

Now talking about money. Most broke people are unhappy. And if you’ve been following what I’m saying, they’re not unhappy because they’re broke. They’re unhappy because they don’t know what they need to do to make money and become unbroke.

That’s the problem. The source of unhappiness is having no clue about what you need to do to address your situation. So, if you’re broke, you can still be happy, when you know exactly what you need to do to reverse your situation.

For instance, I remember back when I was still in school. I had a few friends that had really wealthy parents. When my parents sent me 10k naira for the month, their parents sent them like 500k naira for the month.

I wondered how it felt like to have that much money to spend for a month as a student. The surprising thing is that some of these guys spend and finish that 500k even before I finish spending my 10k for the month.


Because they know that even after they spend it all before the months end, they can still plead with their parents who are very wealthy and they might feel sorry for them and send them more money.

So, they were never worried about money. They felt comfortable. Not worried like me. Lol.

You know the reason why I’m able to manage my 10k throughout the month? Because I know if I spend it recklessly like them, I’m not going to get another one for that month. In fact, I’m not even sure when the next months money will come, so, I have to be careful with the one I’ve got.

I’m not telling you this for you to wonder how I managed to spend 10k for a month when I was in school. Lol. No. I’m just trying to illustrate how knowing a bit about the future can give you peace of mind.

For those kids, even though they always spent all that 500k sometimes before the end of the month, and they become broke before the start of the next month, they’re still okay and comfortable because they knew how to get more money from their parents. Sometimes even before the end of the current month.

For them, they knew their wealthy parents are there, and all they needed to do at that time was just ask for more money and they have it.

I on the other hand (at that time when I was in school), was more on my toes when it came to money. I spent carefully, and was more careful, because I didn’t know when the next stipend is coming.

So, money is not what really gives you peace of mind. Knowing how to make more money whenever you want is what gives you that peace of mind, comfort and happiness.

I’ve since left school, and I have far more money than I need. What gives me peace right now is not the money I have. It’s the fact that I know how to make more.

If I had 10 million in my bank account, I’ll still be scared if I didn’t know how to make another 10 million.

No matter how much money you give a man, if he doesn’t know how to turn that money into more money, he’ll always be a poor man, and will never be at peace even with that money you gave him.

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