When You Hit Rock Bottom

when you hit rock bottom

Rock bottom is one of the most visited places in the world. Everybody gets there one way or the other once or a few times in their life.

It’s not a nice place to visit. Nobody wants to go back there once they’ve been there. Because it’s a place of pain. A place of regret, a place of loss, a place of disappointment, a place where you’re alone.

There’s no company in rock-bottom. Most people you thought were your friends don’t wants to be around you when you’re in rock bottom.

If you find anyone around you when you hit rock bottom, those people are truly special people. They truly love you, and you must hold those people dear the rest of your life.

Rock bottom can be different for different people. For some, it might be that they lost a loved one in death. Someone very close to them. Someone that holds a special part of their life together. For others, it might be that they got their heart ripped apart by someone they loved and trusted with their whole heart. While for some others, it might be that they made some bad business decisions and lost all their assets, their life savings and everything. They gone from being rich to being dirt poor.

Like I said, rock bottom ain’t pretty. From the different cases above, it ain’t a pretty place for anyone to be.

But since we all get there one way or the other once or twice in our lives, the question is, what should you do when you get there, or how do you get yourself out of rock bottom?

Accept and take responsibility for your current situation

Most people always blame other people for their own predicament. They always point fingers at other people. There’s always someone else to blame.

I know sometimes, it isn’t our fault that certain things happen. Sometimes, it’s just unforeseen circumstances that went against us. Like when you lose a loved one in death, it’s not your fault. It’s just life. We live and we die, and there’s no way around it.

There’s no one to blame. You can’t blame yourself or anyone else.

Some other times however, we’re responsible for our actions and the result of those actions. Like when you get greedy and get scammed online, or make bad business decisions and lose all your money. Whose fault is it? It’s yours. You’ve got to take responsibility for your actions.

The sooner you start seeing your own mistakes and taking responsibility for them, the sooner or earlier you start learning how to fix them, and making sure you don’t make same mistakes again.

Find out what got you there and let go

For most of us, our rock bottom is when we lose everything we’ve worked for, or when you put all your resources and effort into something and it ended up not working out.

Then you find yourself in a situation where you don’t know what to do. You don’t know what direction to go from there.

In this instance, you must assess your situation and find out what got you there in the first place. What mistakes did you make? What mindset did you have that got you there? You must find out everything about what got you to your present predicament, and then find a way to do things differently henceforth.

You must also try not to dwell on your past mistakes and let go of them. The past is in the past, and there’s nothing you can do to change it.

Like the quote from master Oogway in Kungful Panda, “yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift… that’s why it’s called the present.”

You must stop dwelling on the past. It’s history, it’s gone, you can’t change it. Today though is the present. It’s your chance to write another history. It’s another opportunity for you to do things differently.

So, learn from yesterday’s mistakes and have at whatever you’re trying to do again. Use today well, so that you can shape your tomorrow to your will.

Re-evaluate and Simplify your life

Simplifying your life is very important step towards getting yourself out of rock bottom. It’s one of the most important things that will help you survive.

Before your present predicament, you might have been very rich before, with several cars, houses and all the luxury you can afford. But now, you’ve lost everything, or lost almost everything.

Will you continue living that lavish lifestyle you were living before, with the little you have left? No, you can’t.

Now, you must re-evaluate and simplify your life. You must simplify your life if you will survive your present situation.

No more visiting all those fancy restaurants, no more buying those overly priced clothing. The expensive vacations, and everything have to go for now. You must learn to live on less again. At least for the time being.

Find out all the unnecessary things taking huge chunks of money from you on a weekly or monthly basis, and cut them out entirely if you can.

Are you living in an overly-priced rented apartment? Try downgrading and moving to a smaller place. Just simplify everything in your life, plug all the money leaks in your life, so you can have a solid foundation to start over.

Draw out a plan to reinvent your life and stick to it for a year

Once your life is simplified, you must draw out a plan to get yourself out of your current predicament.

You must have a plan. Without a plan, there’s no hope, and you’ll fall deeper and deeper into rock bottom.

What life changes are you going to make? What business are you going to do now? How are you going to do it? How are you going to survive at the moment?

How did you gain your first riches? Can you replicate the process?

You must draw out a plan, and then stick to it for 6 months or a whole year. Most people who lose everything and now have nothing, usually want to get back to the top so eagerly that they want the shortest part possible.

So, they never give any plan they have enough time to grow into something. It’s always too long in their eyes. They keep jumping from one trend to the other hoping they’ll hit the jackpot within a few weeks.

But the truth is, every plan needs time to propagate, and your rock bottom status won’t go away easily within the blink of an eye. You’d have to work for it. You’d have to spend time on a simple plan, and give yourself enough time to bring this plan to fruition.

It’s never going to be overnight. Give yourself from 6 months to 1 year to make this plan work.

Remember your early beginnings how you made your first money, how you gained your first riches. Remember how much you had to work.

You’d have to humble yourself, and be ready to do that kind of backbreaking work again. Be ready to start from that level 0 again, and give yourself time to grow to where you want to be.

Explore new opportunities

Never shy away from new opportunities when you hit rock bottom. I remember, I made my first million (in naira) from an opportunity my friend shared with me when I had nothing.

So, always be willing to listen to and explore new opportunities in business and in every aspect of life, whether you hit rock bottom or not.

And that brings us to the next point.

Reach out for support

You must reach out for support from friends and family. Those who are close to you. Don’t close your mouth. Don’t withdraw into your own shell and cut yourself from those that love you.

I’m not saying you should announce your problems to the whole world. No, you must not do that. You never know who’s even happy that you’re in your present situation.

Instead, you want to look around you. There must be a few people that you trust. You can tell them about your situation. You never know where your lifeline might come from. So, get those close to you involved.

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